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1. We don’t get upset with unreliable people in our life because they break agreements with us; we get upset because we can’t believe them. After awhile it becomes painfully apparent that their tendency to make excuses and justifications for their behavior is nothing more than thin layers of reason stretched over blatant lies. The only way to break out of such tendencies is to wake up, clean up and step up to keeping agreements that they make. Only then does the dynamite boom.

2. Healthy relationships involve trustworthy people who keep the agreements they make. Broken relationships involve unreliable souls with a history of broken agreements. Every time you enter into agreement to do something good for another, you are giving that person a reason to hope and every time you keep the agreement that you’ve made with them with you are building trust with them as well. When you keep the agreements you make-only then does the dynamite boom.

3. We may not be responsible for harms done to us from past trauma, but one thing we’re responsible for is our recovery. We must not squander away days that might have been worthwhile, telling ourselves and others the ‘I can never be happy again’ story. Drama always keeps us stuck in anger and despair but the moment we stop the drama and clean up the crap the dynamite goes boom.

4. I know that there are a hell of a lot of you who’ve been working your butts off to make the dynamite boom by changing yourself for the better. Don’t forget to be grateful for all the progress you’re making by affirming the following: I’m not yet what I want to be and I’m not yet what I’m going to be but thank God Almighty I’m not what I use to be and so it is Amen!

5. I’m now fully convinced that the only way to truly have better relationships with my family is to work harder on becoming a better mate and parent and give up on working to make my mate and children better. Working harder on me than I do on them has also led me to a remarkable discovery: the more I change, the better they get. Working harder on yourself than you do on others makes the dynamite boom.